What Makes You Unique? (In Southern Vernacular)

What makes you unique?

Cuz yo eyebrows on fleek?

Yo face is always beat?

Yo press can stand the heat?

What makes you unique?

I’m eager to know.

Is it the way yo skin glow?

Is it how yo hair grow?

Is it yo gorgeous afro?

That don’t lose shape when the wind blow?

What makes you unique?

Might I ask you again?

I’m trying to get answers.

Not beauty tips, my friend.

Could your walk be so superior?

It intimidates your peers?

Could your talent be so rare?

Some friends won’t even cheer?

Could your hustle be so genius?

It’s hard to replicate?

Could your marriage be so perfect?

People start to hate?

What about your attitude, poise, and individuality?

Your purpose, your position, and your personality?

How you alienate yourself,

But stay in touch with reality.

How you nurture your spirit,

And face every casualty.

So if you haven’t yet discovered,

What makes you unique,

Pull back your cosmetic cover,

And then you will see.

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People Should Come with Warning Signs

No one is perfect, and no one ever does everything right. But it does not give one an excuse to go around infecting others with bad poisonous, unapologetic behavior. If you desire to become better, you must learn to accept constructive criticism. Every attempt to correct your behavior is not an attack.

People who are passive try to avoid arguments, but they too can reach their boiling points. Then, you’re going to throw salt on their names because they’ve finally reacted to your bad attitude, rudeness, selfishness, manipulation, treachery, and wickedness.

Most of us know our flaws. Some of us are afraid to admit them. The problem comes when you try to suppress them instead of facing them. Clearly, you must adjust your behavior in certain environments such as the workplace, church, etc. But if you are not willing to change, then you need to purchase a ‘warning’ label (figuratively speaking).

If all your adult life all you do is complain about how others affect you, then you need to make some serious changes within. Your public demeanor might be impressive, but your soul is a mess. You can’t change the people around you, but you can change the way you respond in certain situations. Everyone is not like you. Therefore, everyone does not have to agree with you. And just because people don’t agree with you doesn’t mean they are toxic or ignorant.

Steadfast loyalty does not expire or become compromised when two people have differences. It is dangerous to move with your emotions like that. When differences start creating distances, your alliance with that person weakens. It is not fair to abandon a healthy relationship just because a person doesn’t see things your way all the time. It just means a person has logic, and you definitely need people like that on your team. Logical people are capable of using deductive reasoning. They base their opinions on facts rather than opinions. They are usually good at giving sound advice and practical approaches to a given situation. Why wouldn’t you want someone like that on your team?

The reason being is that you are irrational and want to control every environment and situation. You want to always leave room for an outing because you’re untrustworthy and unreliable. On top of that, you have conditional loyalty. But how could loyalty be conditional? Either you have it or you don’t right? Well, when you’re dealing with a narcissist, anything is possible.

If you display any of this type of behavior, it’s time to get a check up from the neck up. Otherwise, you’re going to continue losing some good friends and missing out on grand opportunities because you’re not reliable and you can’t be trusted. But if of course you don’t need anyone and think you have life all figured out, then stay just the way you are. As a narcissist, you require adulation and lots of attention, so eventually you will get lonely.

“And remember, make sense of what you do and make every cent count.”

I dare you to share!☺️

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Too Thot to Trot

That Hoe Over There or “Thot” claims the name of a treacherous female with no shame in her game. How many of us have been thots before we married or settled down with that one person? What possessed you to behave in such manner? What makes you so different now? These questions are not meant to wake dead emotions or criticize your past persona. They are meant to make you think about how you used to be before you matured and became socially responsible.

You may have not been called a thot back then, but you were called some derogatory term such as whore, tramp, or slut. You were popping, shaking, or twerking in daisy dukes and crop tops and having sexual intercourse with different men before you got saved. You didn’t care what you were called as long as it wasn’t done to your face. Some of you even thought it was cool to sleep with married men. Some of you would go as far as seducing another girl’s boyfriend just to prove you can get him. If that’s not thottish, then I don’t know what else to call it.

Where was your head when you were thotting? Did you have some traumatic experience in your early childhood? Maybe mom or dad wasn’t there or showed neglect. Maybe you just wanted to be cool or accepted. Maybe you had low self-esteem. There are numerous reasons that could’ve kept you from being lady-like or modest. You probably didn’t realize that some unfortunate occurrence from your past was the root cause of your present behavior at the time. You just learned to live with it, or better yet, deal with it in such immoral way. No one ever sat you down and taught you how to be a lady, so you had to figure it out on your own or much later in life after making a few mistakes.

Many of you just had to learn from your mistakes because you wouldn’t listen to anybody. Some of you had excellent role models. But you wanted to be accepted by your peers who were thots as well. You later learned that the leader who is ostracized also gets the prize.

Most men do not value anything with a lot of miles on it unless it has a rebuilt engine. Still, he takes a chance on that beauty. Without proper diagnostic and maintenance, other things will start falling apart eventually. The one with less miles usually brings less worries, less drama, and less stress. If you didn’t think so, you wouldn’t have traded in your ’84 Ford or similar.

Young ladies, if you don’t want to be labeled as a thot, don’t behave or dress like one. If priests started wearing white hoods covering their faces, you’d confuse them with the Ku Klux Klan. Mature ladies, don’t judge them. Guide them.

And remember…
“Make sense of what you do, and make every cent count.”

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