Learn to Be Happy in That Moment

Happiness is a choice. You can either claim it or disown it. Don’t believe me? Try pushing that smile button and keep applying pressure until you begin to feel happy.

Remember those old gas heaters? You had to keep applying pressure until that pilot lit up. You heard several clicks before hearing that rush from the pilot. It was like a sense of relief! At that moment, you felt instant gratification for that heater because you knew warmth was on the way! You were so determined to feel that heat that you wouldn’t stop applying pressure.

In that same way, you must apply pressure to trigger happiness in your life. However, you must understand that happiness is a temporary feeling. No one can be happy all the time because it can immediately be overturned by some unfortunate incident.

Think about a time(s) in your life when you were happy, then suddenly, that one phone call or incident zapped it all away. Well, I can name several. Can I get a witness?

It is nearly impossible to remain happy after hearing disturbing news or being involved in a serious incident. It will certainly take time and spiritual intervention to bounce back. Some instances might take an extended period of time plus therapy. But choosing to remain broken, depressed, or despondent is where you come in.

You cannot change what happened to you, but you can change what you think about. The memory will reappear, especially when idle, but you must change the channel in your mind, just as you do when searching for something interesting or entertaining to watch on television.

Sometimes, you may have to change your environment or objects in your space. For example, I recently removed obituaries of my deceased sister and brother-in-law from my work space because they were conjuring up sad memories way too often. I didn’t realize the damage it was doing to my spirit.

Nevertheless, seeing my sister’s smiling face on my screen saver and thinking of fun times with my brother-in-law make me smile and focus on good memories of them. But this might not affect another individual in the same way. That’s why it is important to do what works for you. Do whatever it takes to recapture that smile over and over again, until you begin to feel happy – even if it’s only for that moment.

And remember…
“Make sense of what you do, and make every cent count.”

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I’m Fake All Day, But My Tears Are Real


Don’t be fooled by a person’s social media posts. It appears that most of us do not wear our hearts on our sleeves. I’m actually glad many of us don’t because some people’s posts would be so depressing. However, one needs a dose of good and bad to sustain a healthy living. What I mean is seeing that others might have it worst than you can make you appreciate your current situation.

People tend to fake like their happy, fake like their in a relationship, fake like their balling, and even fake like their in a profession that they’re not. Everyone who wears scrubs is not a nurse. Just as everyone who works with kids is not a school teacher. You can’t keep believing everything you see, then go wining to your husband or boyfriend of how you’d like your life to be. Most of the time, you might be happier than they are in your current situation.

Truth is, no one is one hundred percent happy all the time. People just don’t like to admit it. Happiness is a temporary feeling spawned by a favorable gesture, person, thing, or event. People are not happy when their loved one passes. People are usually not happy after a bad break-up or ugly divorce. People are not happy when their teenagers are out of control. People are not happy when they lose their jobs. People are not happy after having a car repossessed or foreclosing on a home. People are not happy after filing bankrupt. People are not quite happy when they’re flat broke. As you can see, there are several instances in life that can make one unhappy.

So before you begin to relish in other’s misfortunes, think about the times in life when you weren’t happy. Yeah, they’re posts might be fraudulent, but their tears are real. Some people yearn for attention and turn to social media for it. That might not be your approach, but it’s their way of coping with life. Maybe they are imagining themselves in a better situation with the hope of being in a better situation some day. We all do that at some point in life, just not on social media.

Remember, happiness is momentarily. When people look happy, they just might be – at the moment. Social media gives people another way of expressing their happiness, so let them be. In a world of cruelty and injustice, I love to see people smiling and enjoying life, even if they are faking it. Misery loves company and invites the most sinister behaviors. I’d rather view fake posts all day than some of the negativity I see getting glorified on social media.

And remember…
“Make sense of what you do, and make every cent count.”

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