The toughest part about forgiveness is forgiving. It’s even harder when you have to forgive a person who is unapologetic or oblivious. Consequently, it’s sometimes easier said than done.
I don’t believe in forgive and forget, but I do believe that one should forgive without regret. One way you can tell you haven’t truly forgiven a person is if you have ill feelings about he or she from time to time or when someone speaks of him or her. Another way is if the least little thing he or she does or says tick you off. Does that sound like you? If so, you need to find that soft spot in your heart that’s been tampered with, and replace the hurt with love. That’s what forgiveness is all about. Where there’s love, there’s no room for hate, resentment, or regret. Bitterness of the heart disrupts the mind, and that’s why his or her wrongdoing(s) keep showing up in your thoughts. This is eventually going to take a toll on you,’for when you don’t forgive wholeheartedly, you allow that person to have power and control over you. That person begins to consume much of your thoughts and affect your attitude’ (I’m GOOD, ch.2 pg 32, to be released in July of 2016). You can’t even enjoy life because you can’t seem to get over how that person has wronged you. In the meantime, he or she has moved on with life, caring less about whether or not you’ve forgiven him or her. People with this type of attitude either don’t see how they’ve wronged you or simply don’t care because they are fools. You can’t offer a fool nothing but love because they need it most. Don’t worry. Karma ain’t cute, and bad seeds grow weeds. Just remember that when you forgive, it’s for you, not them.
If you are finding it hard to forgive someone, take some time to let your heart heal a bit. Some wounds take longer to heal than others. The rightful thing to do would be to forgive immediately, but humans don’t work like that. Take a realistic approach to the situation by first talking to the person who’s wronged you, if at all possible. There may have been some underlying problem that caused he or she to hurt you. I’m not making any excuses for the wrongdoer, but people are entitled to make mistakes, including you. When you do find it in your heart to forgive that person, distance may be best, if trust was lost. Forgiving does not equate to being foolish. Every situation may very, so you’ll have to use your own judgment. Nevertheless, you will be judged, if you don’t forgive at all.
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