Self-Love – Page 2 – Life Lessons

I’ve Earned This Body

You see this bulge in my belly.
My four kids did that.
If it wasn’t such a blessing,
It wouldn’t be called baby fat.

That fat hanging off my sides.
It aint’ called love handles for nothing.
I may not be your Ebony model,
But I’m a trophy to my husband.

You see that fat on my back?
I didn’t ask for that.
But it matches my rump shaker,
Which cuts my jeans no slack.

These arms might jiggle a little.
My walk now has a lil wiggle.
But ain’t nothing unhealthy about me,
As long as my tummy doesn’t triple.

Being unfit doesn’t make you unhealthy.
Being trim doesn’t make you a gem.
You’re as healthy as you feel
And as sexy as the slimmest of them.

If your skin ain’t tight,
Hit the gym or ride a bike.
But don’t let those surgical bodies
Cause you to lose sight.

Look your best and feel your best.
Worrying too much causes stress.
Spanks and shapers ain’t going nowhere,
So consider yourself blessed.

Train that waist, shed them wings,
Wrap them thighs and live the dream.
Whether your waist is club 20 or 30,
You’ve earned your self-esteem.

You can’t change everything about yourself.
Some areas are okay, and some need a little help.
Seek natural alternatives instead,
They’re much safer and better for your health.

If it ain’t homegrown, then leave it alone.
Nurture your trouble areas and keep your core strong.
You don’t have to be perfect when everyone else is flawed.
Applaud yourself for being healthy and not guilty of fraud.

It ain’t all about the booty.
It ain’t all about your figure.
Why short-change yourself,
When your worth is so much bigger.

The change is short, so you gotta be smart.
Doctors are winning, not you.
For big ole bucks, you get a quick fix
That doesn’t hold longer than glue.

Even celebrities are having regrets,
So take heed to their mistakes.
Invest more into yourself than a body that’s fake.

If you’ve already made the change,
I’m not bashing you.
Your new figure looks great,
And hopefully the walk you choose.

I’m here to uplift those who are thinking about it
And willing to take drastic measures,
Like taking chances with doctors, who have no public record.
And those who just can’t afford it and hide behind an avatar
Because people might shame and cause them to forget who they are.

So this is certainly not for you.
You’ve already made your decision.
But your confidence was somewhat compromised
Before you made the transition.

Correct me if I’m wrong because I’m not here to diss-
If something other than confidence made you take that risk.
Your reason is your business, and I wouldn’t dare pry.
I just want to help those women who are hurting deep inside.

You make it look so easy.
You flaunt it all so well.
They’re eager to take that risk.
So they too can show and tell.

It’s easy to love your new body.
And strut it the way you do.
But the things some women are dealing with
Are much bigger than you.

Now back to my unfit women and those who are overweight.
Stop complaining about your body and get back in shape.
Nah, that new body won’t make him commit.
And it surely won’t make him stay.
I’ve seen the baddest women,
Get used and thrown away.

Go for the challenge and be a challenge.
Men love to compete.
Do just enough to be healthy because confidence is the key.

If you love yourself, grace your space, and it will show in your walk.
He’ll treat you like a queen and actually listen when you talk.
Let your attitude be on “fleek” and your beauty bars will rise,
When you’ve earned your body, you don’t need a disguise.

Now don’t go clowning skinny women
Now that you feel good about yourself.
Continue on with your regimen
And leave negativity on the shelf.

Too Thot to Trot

That Hoe Over There or “Thot” claims the name of a treacherous female with no shame in her game. How many of us have been thots before we married or settled down with that one person? What possessed you to behave in such manner? What makes you so different now? These questions are not meant to wake dead emotions or criticize your past persona. They are meant to make you think about how you used to be before you matured and became socially responsible.

You may have not been called a thot back then, but you were called some derogatory term such as whore, tramp, or slut. You were popping, shaking, or twerking in daisy dukes and crop tops and having sexual intercourse with different men before you got saved. You didn’t care what you were called as long as it wasn’t done to your face. Some of you even thought it was cool to sleep with married men. Some of you would go as far as seducing another girl’s boyfriend just to prove you can get him. If that’s not thottish, then I don’t know what else to call it.

Where was your head when you were thotting? Did you have some traumatic experience in your early childhood? Maybe mom or dad wasn’t there or showed neglect. Maybe you just wanted to be cool or accepted. Maybe you had low self-esteem. There are numerous reasons that could’ve kept you from being lady-like or modest. You probably didn’t realize that some unfortunate occurrence from your past was the root cause of your present behavior at the time. You just learned to live with it, or better yet, deal with it in such immoral way. No one ever sat you down and taught you how to be a lady, so you had to figure it out on your own or much later in life after making a few mistakes.

Many of you just had to learn from your mistakes because you wouldn’t listen to anybody. Some of you had excellent role models. But you wanted to be accepted by your peers who were thots as well. You later learned that the leader who is ostracized also gets the prize.

Most men do not value anything with a lot of miles on it unless it has a rebuilt engine. Still, he takes a chance on that beauty. Without proper diagnostic and maintenance, other things will start falling apart eventually. The one with less miles usually brings less worries, less drama, and less stress. If you didn’t think so, you wouldn’t have traded in your ’84 Ford or similar.

Young ladies, if you don’t want to be labeled as a thot, don’t behave or dress like one. If priests started wearing white hoods covering their faces, you’d confuse them with the Ku Klux Klan. Mature ladies, don’t judge them. Guide them.

And remember…
“Make sense of what you do, and make every cent count.”

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Self-Love is the Best Love

It’s hard to love anyone else when you do not love yourself. Everyday, people look for love in all the wrong places because they can’t seem to identify that important aspect with themselves. If someone has to tell you that you are beautiful in order for you to believe it, then you do not love yourself. If the only time you feel confident is when you are looking like everyone else or doing what everyone else is doing, then you do not love yourself.

Self-love is an important trait to carry throughout life in order to get through life. If you are never satisfied with yourself, then you will never be satisfied with someone else. Men treasure women who are confident and comfortable with themselves. Most men try to live simple lives because they create their own disorder. They are not built to remember to do 110 things each day. Women create that balance. Thus, it is easy for a man to forget to tell you that you are beautiful, especially if he doesn’t see it as priority. If he is committed to you and expresses his love daily, then there is no need for the extra – not every day, at least. He feels as though he has shown you in more ways than one. Of course, women love compliments. It adds the icing on the cake. But it is one thing to want a compliment and another to actually need it to survive.

Your confidence is more attractive than your beauty. Confidence is acceptance of oneself. A confident woman does not need validation or confirmation because she knows that her make up is a work of art. She doesn’t care about being accepted by society or peers because she respects her right of ownership to who she is. Plus, she has a sense of individuality. She does not strive to be like anyone else. Her man does not make her. He only complements her. She doesn’t have to be an hour glass or coke bottle to define her beauty. She understands that beauty is deeper than the physical appearance.

Many battered, depressed, and miserable woman are beautiful on the outside. They were once beautiful on the inside as well until the enemy contaminated their spirits. I am not saying that these woman are ugly acting. But inner love cannot coexist with self-hatred. Women who hate themselves sometimes take it out on those who love them dearly, such as their children. Now, they are not only damaging to themselves but to others as well.

Life will throw us all curve balls at some point. Men will lie and cheat and repeat. Friends will betray us. People in general will disappoint us. Self-love gives you the strength to keep pushing forward because you love yourself too much to let anything keep you down. You can never love yourself too much, but you can create too much stress by not loving yourself. Nevertheless, self-love is not to be confused with embarrassing or degrading oneself. Looking or behaving ridiculously in public is not self-love. That’s just plain foolishness. In fact, it could be a sign that you don’t love yourself at all.

And remember…
“Make sense of what you do, and make every cent count.”

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