The Best Revenge Is Your Success

Have you ever been in competition with someone and didn’t know it? He or she is cheering for you on the sideline but chopping you up like seasoning in the kitchen! You’d never think that those who appear to be your biggest fans would be out to burn you like toast and roast you like chicken. While you are trying to make it to the finish line, your competitor is throwing stones. You’ll always have competition, and that’s fine. But when the competitor is your close friend or relative, it’s foul!

In a competition, respect is gained or lost, and the battle is either fair or unfair. Companies compete against each other all the time, especially in retail. For example, virtually every cell phone company claims to have better coverage or connectivity. That’s fair. However, a competition that is done in vain is unfair. Of course two friends or relatives can knowingly compete against one another, as long as the intent is not for one to knock the other down maliciously. When I was a part of a network marketing organization, I had a strong team. Though I was the head, we were all still in competition with one another. Nevertheless, we supported each other wholeheartedly. It motivated me to see my team members moving at the same pace as myself or faster. It actually made me happier to see the people I brought aboard doing better than myself. Success feels better when someone else benefits. If your team members are winning, it certainly does not make you a loser. There’s no “I” in team. Nonetheless, the bad part about having success at the expense of others is when your team members cannot keep up. When the game becomes unfair, it may be time to give it up.

So how I can tell if my support is out of love or hate?

Most of the time, you can’t. Otherwise, you wouldn’t need me to tell you. Anyone who shows evidence of not wanting to see you get ahead is clearly not a fan of you. Oftentimes, you will not find this out unless the two of you have a big altercation or someone with this information shares it with you. I can imagine that you’d want to know who is hating on you, but you should be mindful of who is sharing such information with you. It too can be done in vain. For instance, if the person sharing the information is supposed to be a close friend of your friend or relative as well, he or she cannot be trusted. Jealous people will stir up dissension between two good friends or relatives just to secure their place or take yours. However, if this is not the case and the information adds up to your instincts, interrogations should start immediately. Over time, a hater will begin to reveal some tell-tale signs. For example, if your friend withheld information about a position you verbally expressed interest in, there’s your prospect. To make matter worse, if that friend could have helped you get the position, there’s your poison.

How do I defeat this person without retaliating?

One thing to remember is that a person of this character does not deserve the time and energy it takes to seek revenge. If you really want to ruffle some feathers, work harder towards achieving your goals by spending more time taking the necessary steps and less time talking to your hater. You’d be surprised at how far you can get after curing such disease. Before you know it, you’ll be at the finish line smiling from ear to ear, while your hater is sucking teeth and bleeding jealousy.

And remember…
“Make sense of what you do, and make every cent count.”

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Bianca A. McCormick-Johnson

In short, I'm a work of ART (Aptitude, Resolve, & Talent). My goal is to Attract, Retain, and Teach an audience between the ages of 14 to about 50 and beyond the disciplines of life. I've been blessed with the gift of giving knowledge and creating peace within the souls of many who are starving for spiritual satisfaction. I'm no prophet, but I do believe that I am one of God's chosen spiritual leaders and sources of information on how to walk a straight path down a crooked road.

10 thoughts on “The Best Revenge Is Your Success”

  1. Haters are fueled by jealously. This is only a clue that you are progressing in a successful direction. Who hates on the weeds in the rose garden??? Their support may be genuine but just ill-timed. Some folks will show greater support AFTER their success. You really don’t have time and definite not the energy to retaliate against haters. Surge forward and do YOU.

    1. Thanks for your engagement and enthusiasm! The world can surely use more motivators and less haters. I couldn’t agree with you more, Kassaundria. Thanks for sharing!

  2. Haters actually motivate you the most, they keep fuel going for your success. As long as they are there it should encourage you to be the best you that you can be and then they can hate on that.

    1. Thanks for your engagement and enthusiasm, Naderah. I agree with your statement. Let’s strive to encourage one another, even when things aren’t working in our favor.

  3. My absolute favorite part of the blog is “…this character does not deserve the time and energy it takes to seek revenge.” I genuinely don’t care if I have haters. I take comfort and solace in my God whom dictates my path. It’s hard enough being a Christian, wife, mother, student, cook, maid, etc. We need to focus on the light beyond us.
    I love your blog. It’s real, and more than that it’s relevant! Can we put this on the ‘chittlin’ circuit and spread this like wildfire throughout ALL our communities?

    1. Thanks for your engagement and enthusiasm, Kiara! I agree with your comment, and yes, we can put this on the ‘chittlin’ circuit and spread it like wildfire throughout ALL our communities. That’s actually what I want. We need more positive leaders like you to help get it started.

  4. Great read B. Most of the times if you have haters its a sign that you’re doing something right. I noticed that some of the most hated people in the world are the most successful. Such as Obama, Mayweather, Tyler Perry and so on.

    1. Thanks for your engagement and enthusiasm, Damani! You are so right! But we have to do better as a people.

        1. Thanks for your engagement and enthusiasm, Ngozi! If you’re not persecuted, you must not be doing something right. Persecution has its place, but a conqueror leaves space for blessings.

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