Positivity – Page 8 – Life Lessons

People Should Come with Warning Signs

No one is perfect, and no one ever does everything right. But it does not give one an excuse to go around infecting others with bad poisonous, unapologetic behavior. If you desire to become better, you must learn to accept constructive criticism. Every attempt to correct your behavior is not an attack.

People who are passive try to avoid arguments, but they too can reach their boiling points. Then, you’re going to throw salt on their names because they’ve finally reacted to your bad attitude, rudeness, selfishness, manipulation, treachery, and wickedness.

Most of us know our flaws. Some of us are afraid to admit them. The problem comes when you try to suppress them instead of facing them. Clearly, you must adjust your behavior in certain environments such as the workplace, church, etc. But if you are not willing to change, then you need to purchase a ‘warning’ label (figuratively speaking).

If all your adult life all you do is complain about how others affect you, then you need to make some serious changes within. Your public demeanor might be impressive, but your soul is a mess. You can’t change the people around you, but you can change the way you respond in certain situations. Everyone is not like you. Therefore, everyone does not have to agree with you. And just because people don’t agree with you doesn’t mean they are toxic or ignorant.

Steadfast loyalty does not expire or become compromised when two people have differences. It is dangerous to move with your emotions like that. When differences start creating distances, your alliance with that person weakens. It is not fair to abandon a healthy relationship just because a person doesn’t see things your way all the time. It just means a person has logic, and you definitely need people like that on your team. Logical people are capable of using deductive reasoning. They base their opinions on facts rather than opinions. They are usually good at giving sound advice and practical approaches to a given situation. Why wouldn’t you want someone like that on your team?

The reason being is that you are irrational and want to control every environment and situation. You want to always leave room for an outing because you’re untrustworthy and unreliable. On top of that, you have conditional loyalty. But how could loyalty be conditional? Either you have it or you don’t right? Well, when you’re dealing with a narcissist, anything is possible.

If you display any of this type of behavior, it’s time to get a check up from the neck up. Otherwise, you’re going to continue losing some good friends and missing out on grand opportunities because you’re not reliable and you can’t be trusted. But if of course you don’t need anyone and think you have life all figured out, then stay just the way you are. As a narcissist, you require adulation and lots of attention, so eventually you will get lonely.

“And remember, make sense of what you do and make every cent count.”

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Protect Your Peace

“Peace is golden. But even gold needs a polish every now and then.”
-Bianca A. McCormick-Johnson

You don’t realize how significant peace is until someone disrupts it. That’s why it is of utmost importance who you let into your space how you handle difficult or challenging situations.

Problems are inevitable, but to have peace is a choice. I say that because I’ve witnessed some people welcome drama and conflict into their lives.

Every action does not deserve a reaction. I’m sure many of you have heard that before. It simply implies that you do not have to defend every attack on your character, whether implicit or explicit.

Anything you give negative energy to is an invasion of peace. Consequently, your peace is more important than you might think. Whenever someone makes your “blood boil”, “gets you outta body or out of your element”, or “gives you bad vibes”, that person is a cancer in your life. I’m sure we all know what cancer does to the body.

Nevertheless, situations beyond your control can take you out of your element, like a car accident. But once again, how you react in such situation can determine whether or not it will go from bad to ugly. You do have every right to get mad, but you don’t have to become angry, especially if it was an honest mistake.

In other words, don’t lose your mind over a fender bender. In major collisions, many people lose their lives. Count your blessings.

You must also protect your peace from gossips and negative people. These can be people you have close ties with such as family, friends, co-workers, and some associates. They may not kill your mood with their immediate presence or dialogue, but small talk can easily segue into an unfavorable conversation if you’re not careful. Before you know it, you’ve learned that Bobby has been wearing a toupee all this time, and Victoria has been sleeping with the next-door neighbor.

You may not think it affects your peace until you run into Bobby or Victoria. When you see Bobby, you can’t help but to take a glance at that toupee, and when you see Victoria, you can never think of her as the wholesome woman you thought she was.

If you are focused and determined to keep your peace, those types of thoughts will be short-lived. When you let them linger, that’s when they become problematic.

The reason you never want them planted is because they can take up useful space and become distracting. They also can give you negative perceptions you never had once before of certain people. When negative energy gets transferred, it can be damaging to an entire community.

What such and such said about you combined with the fender bender, Bobby’s toupee, and Victoria’s infidelity is enough to blur your vision and through you off track from your daily mental routine. When this happens, demons try to creep their way in.

That’s why it’s important to protect your peace.

Pray—Practice—Praise–Prosper

And remember:

“Make sense of what you do, and make every cent count.”

I’m Fake All Day, But My Tears Are Real

Don’t be fooled by a person’s social media posts. It appears that most of us do not wear our hearts on our sleeves. I’m actually glad many of us don’t because some people’s posts would be so depressing. However, one needs a dose of good and bad to sustain a healthy living. What I mean is seeing that others might have it worst than you can make you appreciate your current situation.

People tend to fake like their happy, fake like their in a relationship, fake like their balling, and even fake like their in a profession that they’re not. Everyone who wears scrubs is not a nurse. Just as everyone who works with kids is not a school teacher. You can’t keep believing everything you see, then go wining to your husband or boyfriend of how you’d like your life to be. Most of the time, you might be happier than they are in your current situation.

Truth is, no one is one hundred percent happy all the time. People just don’t like to admit it. Happiness is a temporary feeling spawned by a favorable gesture, person, thing, or event. People are not happy when their loved one passes. People are usually not happy after a bad break-up or ugly divorce. People are not happy when their teenagers are out of control. People are not happy when they lose their jobs. People are not happy after having a car repossessed or foreclosing on a home. People are not happy after filing bankrupt. People are not quite happy when they’re flat broke. As you can see, there are several instances in life that can make one unhappy.

So before you begin to relish in other’s misfortunes, think about the times in life when you weren’t happy. Yeah, they’re posts might be fraudulent, but their tears are real. Some people yearn for attention and turn to social media for it. That might not be your approach, but it’s their way of coping with life. Maybe they are imagining themselves in a better situation with the hope of being in a better situation some day. We all do that at some point in life, just not on social media.

Remember, happiness is momentarily. When people look happy, they just might be – at the moment. Social media gives people another way of expressing their happiness, so let them be. In a world of cruelty and injustice, I love to see people smiling and enjoying life, even if they are faking it. Misery loves company and invites the most sinister behaviors. I’d rather view fake posts all day than some of the negativity I see getting glorified on social media.

And remember…
“Make sense of what you do, and make every cent count.”

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