Learn From Others’ Mistakes





Marvin Mercer did what so many parents or caregivers have done over the years. He left 8-month old Raylee Mercer in a hot parked car, as he proceeded to go to work. His intent was to drop her off at daycare, but apparently, he forgot. It saddens me that this is still happening after learning of previous incidents like this one. When I hear of stories like this, an alarm immediately goes off in my mind and cautions me to be extra careful when caring for my own kids or someone else’s. I’m quite sure Mercer never thought he could do something like this and is deeply distraught behind the whole ordeal. But how many times do we hear of stories like this and pass comments and judgment? It’s not until it happens to one of us that it becomes a mistake or accident. I do believe it was definitely an accident because he did not let the windows down. However, we don’t forget to dress cool on hot summer days. We don’t forget to put on underwear. Even if we did, it wouldn’t be long before we realized it. We don’t forget our cell phones. Speaking of cell phones, how many of you have turned the car completely around, once you’d realized you left your cell phone at home or somewhere else? I know I have many of times. My cell phone has become a part of my identity and daily wardrobe. It wouldn’t dare take me two hours to realize that I left home without my cell phone.

As forgettable as I can be, some things I just can’t seem to forget, especially a child. In my opinion, forgetting a child is like a woman forgetting she is pregnant. At conception, a woman becomes pregnant with a baby, and the man becomes pregnant with a promise to love, provide, and protect. Marvin loved and provided for Raylee, but in this instance, he failed to protect her.

We have to learn to prioritize our days and turn off autopilot when it is time to shift gears. Whenever a child is in your possession, whether it is yours or someone else’s, you must train yourself to change priorities immediately. We don’t forget to go to work because we need that paycheck. We don’t forget to eat because of hunger. We don’t forget how to drive, tell time, feed our pets and all other things we do daily, so how is that we can forget a human being? I believe Mercer is the good man people say he is. He just made a terrible, careless mistake that he has to live with for the rest of his life. Raylee may be in a better place, but Marvin’s life will never be the same. We’ve all made careless mistakes before, but the real question remains, “Did you learn from them?”

All of us are capable of doing what Marvin did. Let’s just hope and pray that we all garner a sense of awareness, after reading this story. May Raylee rest in peace, and may Marvin gain peace of mind again.

And remember…
“Make sense of what you do, and make every cent count.”

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Let Children Be Children

Nowadays, children are growing up too fast. I come from an era where kids acted as kids, not adults. Whatever happened to ponytails and short nails? Roller skating and play dating? I can remember being childish as a kid, but it was okay because I was only acting my age. Me and my neighborhood friends played dodge ball, double dutch, hopscotch, red light green light, cool cans, red roses, jacks, and hand games, to name a few. Some of you may or may not be familiar with a few of those games, but I had so much fun playing them. We reserved video games and television watching for bad weather days. Being made to stay inside used to be a punishment. Now it is a privilege because kids, boys in particular, like to play Xbox and Playstation all day. Boys used to get together to go run around outside or play ball, but I don’t see too much of that anymore. Now they get together just to play the game. Girls used to get together to jump rope or play some other outdoor sport, but now they get together to play in makeup or hair extensions. Some just stay inside on their mobile devices on social media, while others are texting or sexting.

How do we get our kids to be kids again?

We are going to have to limit the time they spend on those wonderful electronics devices the Japanese and Chinese invented to program our children. Before they existed, there was no such thing as childhood obesity. American children are getting fat because they are eating the wrong foods and not exercising. You can’t do both. You just can’t. Girls need to spend less time thinking about where their next bundles are going to come from and more time hitting the books. I’ve never seen so many bundles and bad makeup combinations in my 36 years of living. They’ve got their whole lives to be grown, so I don’t understand why they are trying to fast forward to adulthood. Parents, teach your children about the stress that comes from the weight of responsibility as an adult. Maybe, they wouldn’t be so anxious to get there. Mothers, with daughters in particular, just because you wear makeup and long nails doesn’t mean she should. Thirteen is not the new sixteen, and sixteen is not the new 21. Give them room to grow, and make them take things slow.

And remember…
“Make sense of what you do, and make every cent count.”

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