Self-Love is the Best Love

It’s hard to love anyone else when you do not love yourself. Everyday, people look for love in all the wrong places because they can’t seem to identify that important aspect with themselves. If someone has to tell you that you are beautiful in order for you to believe it, then you do not love yourself. If the only time you feel confident is when you are looking like everyone else or doing what everyone else is doing, then you do not love yourself.

Self-love is an important trait to carry throughout life in order to get through life. If you are never satisfied with yourself, then you will never be satisfied with someone else. Men treasure women who are confident and comfortable with themselves. Most men try to live simple lives because they create their own disorder. They are not built to remember to do 110 things each day. Women create that balance. Thus, it is easy for a man to forget to tell you that you are beautiful, especially if he doesn’t see it as priority. If he is committed to you and expresses his love daily, then there is no need for the extra – not every day, at least. He feels as though he has shown you in more ways than one. Of course, women love compliments. It adds the icing on the cake. But it is one thing to want a compliment and another to actually need it to survive.

Your confidence is more attractive than your beauty. Confidence is acceptance of oneself. A confident woman does not need validation or confirmation because she knows that her make up is a work of art. She doesn’t care about being accepted by society or peers because she respects her right of ownership to who she is. Plus, she has a sense of individuality. She does not strive to be like anyone else. Her man does not make her. He only complements her. She doesn’t have to be an hour glass or coke bottle to define her beauty. She understands that beauty is deeper than the physical appearance.

Many battered, depressed, and miserable woman are beautiful on the outside. They were once beautiful on the inside as well until the enemy contaminated their spirits. I am not saying that these woman are ugly acting. But inner love cannot coexist with self-hatred. Women who hate themselves sometimes take it out on those who love them dearly, such as their children. Now, they are not only damaging to themselves but to others as well.

Life will throw us all curve balls at some point. Men will lie and cheat and repeat. Friends will betray us. People in general will disappoint us. Self-love gives you the strength to keep pushing forward because you love yourself too much to let anything keep you down. You can never love yourself too much, but you can create too much stress by not loving yourself. Nevertheless, self-love is not to be confused with embarrassing or degrading oneself. Looking or behaving ridiculously in public is not self-love. That’s just plain foolishness. In fact, it could be a sign that you don’t love yourself at all.

And remember…
“Make sense of what you do, and make every cent count.”

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Ignorance Is At An All-Time High

What is the world coming to? I expect to see ignorance on reality shows and social media but politics? Evidently, sex is not the only thing that sells nowadays. As a savvy businessman and reality show star, Trump is well versed in playing on the stupidity that drives America wild. We are so caught up in entertainment that we can’t even tell when we are being played or punked.

Grab ’em by the pussy, build a wall, and make America great again all came out of the same mouth. Hilarious, right? 916 million loss…really or not really? Funny or not so funny? What’s even more ridiculous is how celebrities endorse this idiot. Yup, the same celebrities many of us celebrate, support, and aspire to be like. This is not to say that Hilary would have been a better candidate with her hidden agenda. She’s clearly a sophisticated liar. But when it comes to choosing the lesser of the two evils, America chose the one who was the most entertaining with his blatant, evasive oration style.

Clearly, Trump isn’t the only idiot operating in pure ignorance in America. His followers are just as ignorant, putting America at a political disadvantage. Hence, followers of this type of behavior are not capable of choosing effective leaders. Anyone who is so consumed with reality shows and the lives of celebrities is a bonafide airhead. Don’t tell me a person’s behavior and history doesn’t matter, for it has mattered for years. It mattered when Obama was president. It mattered when Clinton was president. It mattered when Bush was president. And it mattered for all dead presidents. Did it stop them from winning? Of course not. That’s why America will never be great! In my 37 years of living, I have yet to see greatness come from any of the former presidents of my era. Obama and Clinton came close, but even they were not great. I’ve seen good but not great ones. Lincoln was one of the greatest presidents of the United States, but his tenure was before my time. Nevertheless, it is hard to obtain greatness in these times, for it is blocked by ignorance.

Many times, your choices are a direct reflection of you. In my opinion, putting Trump in office was an ignorant choice. It would have been better to not cast a vote at all. But America’s choice does not surprise me. The behavior of several citizens of this “Christian” country is absurd and insane, so why should their choices be any different? We devalue ourselves with immorality, apathy, injustice and lack of integrity. No, we are not the most corrupt country, but we are definitely not the most clean. I think police brutality victims’ family members can attest to that.

Until we can identify the KKK as a domestic terrorist group, the war against terrorism will never end. If we allow our own people to remain under attack, why wouldn’t they attack us?

And remember…
“Make sense of what you do, and make every cent count.”

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Career vs. Job: Know the Difference





As a person who has been rejected a ton of times and hopped from job to job (including lay-offs), I thought it would only be fair to share my experience with career/job placement. I hope you can benefit from my message.

When seeking employment, you have to know the difference between a career and a job, so you can be more specific in your search. Simply put, a job is an assignment. You are paid to do a particular task(s) to satisfy production needs or service requests. There is usually little or no opportunity for advancement in your position. Though you may still be eligible for benefits and pay raises, your position does not increase in value.

A career is an advancement because it takes you a step closer to your destiny. A career allows you to move up within a company or organization and gain knowledge and skills that can be carried over into your own company. If you are not learning anything new in your current position, then you have a job, not a career. If you can’t move up in your current position, then you have a job, not a career.

On another note, your attitude can determine whether or not you have a job or career also. There are job-minded and career-oriented individuals. In other words, a person holding a career position has a job, if the individual is not mentally prepared to take on more responsibility or acquire the skills needed to advance. For example, a cashier at a grocery store will always be just a cashier, if he or she does not display the ability to take on a more important role, like supervisor or manager.

In summary, most jobs can become careers, as long as the individual displays readiness. If you know you are job-minded, do not seek a supervisor position just for a chance of earning more money. Instead, get a regular job, and supplement your income using your gifts and talents. Even if the employer is desperate enough to hire you, your term will be short. However, if you are seeking a career, be sure to research the opportunity for advancement before applying or accepting the offer. If not, you will find yourself job hopping. And that’s another topic.

And remember…
“Make sense of what you do, and make every cent count.”

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