Learn From Others’ Mistakes





Marvin Mercer did what so many parents or caregivers have done over the years. He left 8-month old Raylee Mercer in a hot parked car, as he proceeded to go to work. His intent was to drop her off at daycare, but apparently, he forgot. It saddens me that this is still happening after learning of previous incidents like this one. When I hear of stories like this, an alarm immediately goes off in my mind and cautions me to be extra careful when caring for my own kids or someone else’s. I’m quite sure Mercer never thought he could do something like this and is deeply distraught behind the whole ordeal. But how many times do we hear of stories like this and pass comments and judgment? It’s not until it happens to one of us that it becomes a mistake or accident. I do believe it was definitely an accident because he did not let the windows down. However, we don’t forget to dress cool on hot summer days. We don’t forget to put on underwear. Even if we did, it wouldn’t be long before we realized it. We don’t forget our cell phones. Speaking of cell phones, how many of you have turned the car completely around, once you’d realized you left your cell phone at home or somewhere else? I know I have many of times. My cell phone has become a part of my identity and daily wardrobe. It wouldn’t dare take me two hours to realize that I left home without my cell phone.

As forgettable as I can be, some things I just can’t seem to forget, especially a child. In my opinion, forgetting a child is like a woman forgetting she is pregnant. At conception, a woman becomes pregnant with a baby, and the man becomes pregnant with a promise to love, provide, and protect. Marvin loved and provided for Raylee, but in this instance, he failed to protect her.

We have to learn to prioritize our days and turn off autopilot when it is time to shift gears. Whenever a child is in your possession, whether it is yours or someone else’s, you must train yourself to change priorities immediately. We don’t forget to go to work because we need that paycheck. We don’t forget to eat because of hunger. We don’t forget how to drive, tell time, feed our pets and all other things we do daily, so how is that we can forget a human being? I believe Mercer is the good man people say he is. He just made a terrible, careless mistake that he has to live with for the rest of his life. Raylee may be in a better place, but Marvin’s life will never be the same. We’ve all made careless mistakes before, but the real question remains, “Did you learn from them?”

All of us are capable of doing what Marvin did. Let’s just hope and pray that we all garner a sense of awareness, after reading this story. May Raylee rest in peace, and may Marvin gain peace of mind again.

And remember…
“Make sense of what you do, and make every cent count.”

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If It Feels Wrong, Then It Is





June 9, 2016 ended the type of affair many of us have or have had in the past. Robert Marks murdered his pregnant mistress, Lyntell Washington, because she threatened to tell his wife about their affair. Apparently, Marks was more afraid of his wife than the consequences of his actions. I don’t know how one can choose jail time over a broken heart, but I’d rather take my lick and deal with my feelings later. There’s nothing more precious than freedom! Washington’s 3-year old daughter was able to corroborate the story and thus serves as a key witness. I guess Marks didn’t think that a 3-year old had sense enough to know let alone remember what happened to her mommy that night. In summary, this supposed-to-be role model and leader claimed the lives of two people and left one little girl motherless. In the meantime, Marks faces charges of first-degree murder and first-degree feticide and could possibly face the death penalty.

What disturbs me the most about this story is Marks’ way of dealing with his problems. Like so many others who have committed similar crimes, he did not think about the possible consequences. Obviously, he did not want to die because he didn’t kill himself. He didn’t want to go to jail, so he tried to cover it up. He didn’t want to lose his wife, so he kills his mistress? So, that implies that he really thought he would get away with it, yet he didn’t have sense enough to delete the text messages and destroy her phone. Either way, authorities would eventually reveal some evidence of the affair. I don’t ever condone any type of criminal behavior, but if you’d like to add it to your resume, make sure you are adept in that field. Otherwise, you’ll get terminated before you get your feet wet. In this case, Marks’ hideous criminal actions cost him prison time, separation from his family, and possibly death. Even if he did think things through, he should have known that there was a good chance of him getting caught.

Nevertheless, Mark’s wife stands by her husband’s statement, despite all the evidence. Looks like he could’ve come clean after all. If she can accept a killer, then she probably would not have had a problem accepting his infidelity and an outside child.

Moral of the Story

There are risks in every decision one makes. Marks knew he was taking a huge risk when he was cheating on his wife, and he knew he was taking an even bigger risk by killing his mistress. Marks tried to get rid of one problem by creating a new one – never smart a move. And two wrongs never make a right. Cheating is always a bad choice. Should you choose to do so, be conscious enough to use protection each time. If you don’t have protection, don’t take the chance. You can end up with an unwanted pregnancy/child and/or a disease and so much more.

As you can see, you can’t judge a book by its cover. Robert Marks was the epitome of success and had no previous criminal record. Who would ever think he could commit such a heinous crime, right? That’s how many of us think. It’s also the same reason many celebrities, politicians, authoritative figures, and people with power get off after committing crimes. It usually takes some time before they are finally convicted and indicted.

We were all born into sin. Hence, it shouldn’t be hard to believe that anyone is capable of committing a punishable crime. Many people who commit such crimes are believers but not followers. And of course, where there is good, there is evil. So, don’t be surprised if something like this happens again.

What You Can Do To Prevent Such

If you have knowledge that a friend or loved one is taking the wrong path, it is your business to step in and advise. If that person does not listen to you the first, second, and third time, then pray for him or her. But don’t just sit around and act like you don’t care then cut up at the funeral. You will live with regret and disappointment, knowing that you could’ve and should’ve said or did something. You never know, your words or actions could possibly save someone’s life.

And remember…
“Make sense of what you do, and make every cent count.”

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Beware of Wolves in Sheep’s Clothing





“If I can’t see your eyes, then all I see is lies. Your wardrobe speaks truth, but it’s only a disguise. Sunday suits on the Sabbath, business suits on Monday, you could fool a judge and juror without saying a thing. You can’t hide behind your makeup. You can’t hide behind your name. You may be rewarded differently, but you’ll be judged the same.”

When people say, “Everything that glitters ain’t gold”, they are telling the truth. But when a person says, “You can trust me “, then he or she is usually telling a lie. A person who is trustworthy does not have to declare that statement. Trustworthy people walk and talk confidently knowing they have sound evidence to support their claim of integrity and nobility. Wolves in sheep’s clothing are always watching their backs and talking slick. In other words, wolves in sheep’s clothing are always prepared to tell a lie, whereas trustworthy people are always prepared to tell the truth.

So don’t be so quick to accept that invitation from your co-worker, classmate, neighbor, or even church member without first checking his or her resume. He might be plotting and scheming while preying on your innocence. He’s giving rides in stolen cars, feeding the hungry with drug money, saving souls and poking holes, and spreading aids while spreading the word.

Doing one good deed does not make you a righteous person, especially if it’s just a cover up. You’re poisoning good soil every time you make a move. Just because you were born into sin, it doesn’t mean you have to continue living that way. Sinning in secrecy is no different from sinning openly. At least, people would be able to see your truth then.

Be honest with yourself and others because deceit has unfavorable consequences. I’d rather be a work in progress with less stress than a bold betrayer swimming in a mess.

And remember…
“Make sense of what you do, and make every cent count.”

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